Last week I was so sad to hear of the passing of Elder L. Tom Perry. It never fails to surprise me how amazing it is that you can never meet a person or having any personal interaction with them and still feel so connected. I have sustained and been taught from Elder Perry my entire life. I know that he was a special witness of our Savior, Jesus Christ. And I feel blessed to have been able to learn from him - and continue to learn from his teachings.
After I heard of his passing, I reread his recent conference talk. These were the thoughts that stuck out to me.
"We take the commitment and the sanctity of marriage to a greater level because of our belief and understanding that families go back to before this earth was and that they can go forward into eternity.
The entire theology of our restored gospel centers on families and on the new and everlasting covenant of marriage.
We believe that marriage and family ties can continue beyond the grave - that marriages performed by those who have the proper authority in His temples will continue to be valid in the world to come.
We also believe that strong traditional families are not only the basic units of society, a stable economy, and a stable culture of values - but that they are also the basic units of eternity and of the kingdom and government of God.
We believe that the organization and government of heaven will be built around families and extended families.
We must continue to project [our] voice throughout the world in declaring why marriage and family are so important, why marriage and family really do matter, and why they always will.
The restored gospel centers on marriage and family. It is also on marriage and family where we can unite most with other faiths. It is around marriage and family where we will find our greatest commonality with the rest of the world. It is around marriage and family that The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has the greatest opportunity to be a light on the hill.
...The older I get, the more I realize that family is the center of life and is the key to eternal happiness."
By Elder L. Tom Perry
Of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles
I loved watching the funeral service and learning more about this amazing man and the manner in which he served so many. He truly lived a remarkable life. I found this mini biography of him (although it is pretty lengthy) and loved it and so I thought I would share.
Lowell Tom Perry was born August 5, 1922 in Logan, Utah, USA to Leslie Thomas and Nora Sonne Perry. He was one of six children in the family. Tom's parents loved and taught the gospel in their home every chance they could. This righteous upbringing was a source of strength to Elder Perry his whole life.
In his first general conference address as an Apostle, Elder Perry said of his childhood: "We were dressed in our home each morning, not only with hats and raincoats and boots to protect us from physical storm, but even more carefully our parents dressed us each day in the armor of God. As we would kneel in family prayer and listen to our father, a bearer of the priesthood, pour out his soul to the Lord for the protection of his family against the fiery darts of the wicked, one more layer was added to our shield of faith. While our shield was being made strong, theirs was always available, for they were available and we knew it."
From a young age, Tom was taught how to work hard. He joined in family chores, including the planting and caring of a large garden. "How grateful I am for a father who had the patience to teach me the art of gardening," he said. "Our family was taught not only the art of stacking and rotating cans and bottles on shelves, but also how to grow and replace the fruits and vegetables necessary to fill the empty cans and bottles again."
His mother was a great teacher in the home, teaching her children gospel and academic truths at every opportunity, including while they were doing chores. "She was a natural teacher and far more demanding of us than our teachers at school and church."
She would stand outside the bedroom door at night long enough to make sure her children said their prayers.
Of his mother, Elder Perry said, "She recognized that parents are entrusted with the education of their children and, ultimately, parents must ensure that their children are being taught what their Heavenly Father would have them learn."
L. Tom Perry was among the first wave of marines to go ashore in Japan after the signing of the peace treaty at the end of World War II. When they reached the ruins of Nagasaki, he later recalled, "it was one of the saddest experiences of my life."
As Tom saw the utter destruction before him, he decided that he wanted to do all he could to help. The occupation troops set up headquarters and already had their work cut out for them. Even so, Tom and several other soldiers wanted to do more.
They asked their division chaplain for permission to help rebuild the Christian church in the area. Most of the churches had been all but shut down during the war due to government restrictions. The few buildings that existed were in desperate need of repair. Tom and the other soldiers explained that they would do the repair work in their free time. Permission was grated, and Tom and the others set to work.
"We had no command of the language," he remembered. "All we could accomplish was the physical labor of repairing the buildings. We found the ministers who had been unable to serve during the war years and encouraged them to return to their pulpits. We had a tremendous experience with these people as they again experienced the freedom to practice their Christian beliefs."
When it was time to board the train out of Nagasaki, Tom and those who had worked on rebuilding churches were teased by many of the other soldiers. These other soldiers had their girlfriends with them and were laughing at Tom's group and mocking them for having wasted their time with plaster, hammer, and nail.
Then something happened that Tom would remember for the rest of his life. Right at the height of the teasing, a group of approximately 200 Japanese Christians topped a little rise not far from the train station. They were walking toward the train station while singing "Onward, Christian Soldiers." This band of Christians presented gifts to Tom and the other soldiers who had worked so hard to serve them.
The Japanese Christians lined up along the railroad track. "As the train started down the tracks, we reached out and just touched their fingers as we left," he said. "We couldn't speak; our emotions were too strong. But we were grateful that we could help in some small way in reestablishing Christianity in a nation after the war."
Elder L. Tom Perry was a builder all his life. Sometimes that meant building a chapel out of the rubble, and other times it meant building up a soul or a nation in need of his boundless optimism, enthusiasm, and spiritual power.
Wherever he went, Elder Perry left things stronger than they were before he came.
Elder Perry served in many leadership callings throughout his life. He served in two bishoprics, on a stake high council, as second counselor in the American River Stake presidency, as a stake mission president, as a special assistant to the Eastern States Mission president (where he spent many hours helping with the Church's pavilion at the 1964-65 New York World's Fair), as a second counselor in the Boston Stake presidency, and as president of the Boston Stake. In 1972 he was called as an Assistant to the Twelve, and then in 1974 he was sustained as a member of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles.
Elder Perry preached and lived with deep spiritual power and enthusiasm. His booming voice would echo in the hearts of listeners long after he stepped down from the pulpit.
Tom met his wife Virginia Lee as he was counting roll for a stake leadership meeting. He said later that he did all right in taking the young men's attendance, but when it was time to tally the young women his math skills his a roadblock. "Suddenly my eyes met a charming, beautiful young woman. I completely lost my ability to count."
Tom was attending Utah State Agricultural College (now Utah State University) at the time and had an extremely busy schedule. Even so, his courtship with Virginia Lee took center stage.
Eight months after their meeting, L. Tom Perry and Virginia Lee were married in the Logan Temple. They had three children together.
Family time was of the highest importance to Tom. He always took time for birthdays, family vacations, family traditions, and other important occasions.
In this regard, one experience left a lasting impression on him. When Tom and his family moved to the East Coast for work, they began searching for homes close to his place of employment. As house hunting continued, they started looking further away. At long last they found a house that the whole family fell in love with. It was a beautiful one-story home nestled in the deep woods of Connecticut. The final test was to try out the commute. Tom returned home discouraged. The commute had been an hour and a half each way.
He posed the problem to his family, saying they could have either the house or a father. Their response surprised him. "We will take the house," they said. "You are never around much anyway."
This was a turning point for Tom. "I needed to repent fast," he said. "My children needed a father who was home more." He took the lesson to heart. "I changed my work habits to allow me to have more time with my family."
Tom and Virginia Perry raised their children in righteousness and love. On December 14, 1874, only eight months after being called as an Apostle, Elder Perry lost his wife to what had been a five-year battle with cancer. "Now she is whole again, and I am certain paradise is a much more joyful place because she is there," he said in tribute to his wife.
On April 28, 1876, Elder Perry married Barbara Taylor Dayton in the Salt Lake Temple. Elder and Sister Perry traveled the world together, preaching and teaching side by side.
Throughout his ministry, Elder Perry spoke often of his upbringing, his own family, and the need for families to stay strong and remain close. He felt so strongly about this that several times he spoke directly to family members as part of his general conference addresses.
All his long life, L. Tom Perry had a talent for applying skills and insights he learned from one area of his life to others. Several years into his first marriage, the calling came for him to serve as second counselor in the bishopric. This came at a time in his professional life when Tom could hardly imagine how to fit such a commitment into his schedule. He hardly had time for enough sleep.
Still, he didn't hesitate to accept. One of the first skills he learned in the new bishopric was how to delegate and organize. He applied these principles to business and soon had more time at work and at home. These skills ultimately helped propel Tom to the upper management levels of his chosen career in the retail business.
Another time Church training came into play was right after he'd accepted a job with a major firm in New York. Part of his new responsibilities included making budget presentations to a hard-to-please board of directors.
Intimidated at first by the assignment, Tom visited the room where he would be making the presentation. In the room he discovered a large section of wall covered with flannel, most likely placed there for acoustic considerations. "As I looked at the large piece of flannel, I thought of my Primary teacher and the use of the flannel board. I sent to Salt Lake for some flannel-backed paper."
Tom created several components of his presentation on the flannel-backed paper and captivated the board of directors at the budget meeting. "The presentation seemed to be very effective, and when it was over, I was complimented, thanks to my Primary teacher," he said.
Though he excelled at business, Tom never let his profession sway his integrity or values. During one phase of his career, he was invited by his boss to attend various business dinners and the social hour that preceded them. Not wanting to be seen holding anything that even resembled an alcoholic beverage at these social hours, Tom soon began carrying around a glass of milk.
"I was amazed, as time passed, by how many of my associates were joining me for a glass of milk during the hour that we spent together," he said. "I found...that being different in the world brought some interesting reactions, but obedience to the Lord's law is always associated with His blessings."
L. Tom Perry was serving as a full-time missionary in the Northern States Mission when World War II was raging. Within a month of returning home from his mission, he enlisted to join the marines.
He served his country with honor and returned home an even deeper patriot than before. In November of 2013, Elder and Sister Perry were honored guests at the 238th Marine Corps Birthday Ball. "I would like to say I have always been proud of the time I served in the Marine Corps," he said at the festivities.
Early in his call as an Apostle, Elder Perry was invited to Washington, D.C, for a meeting of religious leaders to discuss ways in which to involve congregations in the participation of America's bicentennial celebration. At first Elder Perry was delighted. He wanted to help unite the churches' voices in gratitude for God's guiding and protecting hand in the development of America.
To his shock, the group was unwilling to make any such statement. Any reference to the Lord our God was to be prohibited, as they did not want to offend the atheist. Elder Perry was deeply saddened at the outcome. However, he bore solemn witness in general conference of the truths that the collective body of religious leaders in Washington had not wanted to say. "I will teach my firm conviction that the foundation of any righteous government is the law that has been received from the Lord to guide and direct man's efforts. Righteous government receives direction from the Lord."
Elder Perry remained a patriot his whole life.
Elder Perry made friends wherever he went. A story from his life illustrates his ability to form friendships in virtually any setting. After he and his family moved to New York City for work, he noticed how people kept to themselves on the streets and in the subways.
Tom advised a plan in his morning commute to get acquainted with somebody. He watched a man at his subway stop who went through the same routine each morning. The man arrived at the same time, bought a newspaper, stood at the same spot on the train platform, and sat in the same seat on the subway each day without variation.
Tom wanted to shake things up and see if he could form a friendship. He showed up early one day and stoop on this man's favorite platform location. The he sat in the man's preferred subway seat. After two days of doing this, Tom showed up to find the man had arrived earlier than usual and had claimed his spot on the platform. The man gave a little sneer at Tom, who then walked over and started laughing as he explained what he'd been doing.
"He thought that was the greatest things he'd ever heard of," Elder Perry said. He and the man got on the train and rode together. Then soon became great friends. Each morning it was a race to see who could reach the platform first. Soon the race expanded to three, then four, then ten commuters hustling good-naturedly to claim the prized spot.
"It livened up the whole platform," Elder Perry said. Throughout the process, all involved because a close-knit group. One Christmas about ten of them stood on the platform singing Christmas carols together. "I developed some of the greatest friends I've ever had."
During the October 1986 general conference, Elder Perry shared a story from his childhood that revealed an important insight into his life. His father was remodeling their home, and it was seven-year-old Tom's responsibility to pry nails out of the old lumber with a crowbar and then straighten them. Though it was hard work, he felt satisfaction in the completion of this daily task.
Elder Perry completed many such construction projects over the years, from chapel remodels to the construction of new church buildings. The lessons he learned as a child straightening nails seem to be evident in the way he lived his life ever after - on or off the construction yard.
He said, "There is a real satisfaction that comes from finishing a task, especially when it is the best work we know how to do."
Elder Perry never did anything less. He built, he taught, he served, he testified - all to the best of his ability. He was a true builder of the kingdom.
"The gospel of Jesus Christ is true," he said. "It has been restored to bless our lives in these latter days. It contains all the truths, principles, and ordinances contained in our Father in Heaven's great plan of happiness, which is a plan for us to return and live with Him in the eternal realms beyond. That the gospel of Jesus Christ is His divine way for us to face our glorious future is my testimony to you."
1922-2015
